This past weekend Dreamy, the kids, and I took off on Friday for a long weekend in a secluded cabin deep in the mountains. The idea was to totally disconnect from the busy-ness and general chaos that is part and parcel of daily life in our society (and our lives) and reconnect with the busy-ness and general chaos that is our family. We’ve been at this cabin before, in June of 2016, and many things have changed, but many have stayed the same. Both times we left feeling it was an unqualified success and in both cases that was mostly due to our ability to accept unanticipated deviations from the expected as…well, the expected.
There’s no such thing as Mommy Guilt. To suggest there is is doing women everywhere a disservice, because the guilt and shame we women take on as a mantle from pretty much birth is in no way restricted to mothers. We all receive it as a legacy whether we want it or not, and we owe it to ourselves, sisters, friends, mothers, and especially our daughters, to take it off, look at it, and throw it in the trash where it belongs, and when someone tries to make us take it back, we see it for what it is, and say “No thank you, I’ve had enough for now. If that’s okay with you. Sorry.” (because girls are supposed to be polite, right?).
For a long time, work was my ONLY identity. If I had a good day at work everything was okay. If things weren’t going well, I was a wreck. I put in ridiculously long hours, took things way too seriously, and if I ever did take vacation, it was never more than a week and I never disconnected. I knew on some level this was dysfunctional, but I also knew I was kicking butt at my job and that felt good.
Three years ago today I was laid off.
Here are some valuable tips for #working while #traveling with #kids. SPOILER ALERT: It’s #impossible!
All #moms feel #guilty sometimes. Are we spending enough #time with our #kids? Too much? Who knows…#doingourbest
Next Tuesday, July 25th we will be having a #release party for #GraceGroup, in my hometown of the heart, #YorbaLinda, #California. As much as it saddens me to be having this momentous event away from Dreamy and the #kids, there is some consolation in enjoying TWO two-and-a-half hour plane rides, a bed, and a night’s sleep all to myself while I’m gone. This #trip is on the heels of an unexpectedly enjoyable #family #getaway to the Inland ‘Empire’ of Southern California just last week. Overall, we had a wonderful time with the #twins and #bigsis, but it was not without its #struggles. Here is how I expect the two journeys to compare.
What the heck, one might ask (or did, if one were a book coach) is the relation between my fiction and my blogs, who am I as an author, and WHAT am I trying to do with my writing anyway?
How should I know? I haven’t had a decent night’s sleep in five years!