Carrie Maldonado – Writer

Freelance writer, wordsmith, and novelist

Support groups can be a funny thing.  Most of the ones I have encountered are wonderful, and yet for people who have never been exposed to them, there is a lot of hesitation or even suspicion regarding them.  In Grief Inc, Holly joins a support group for people who are dying of a terminal disease.  At first she is resistant, as she thinks it will be depressing and morbid, and she doesn’t want to dwell on her condition any more than she has to.  I think this is a pretty normal reaction for most people, especially ones who pride themselves on being strong and/or independent.  Holly has a belief that she needs to handle her problems herself and that it’s a sign of weakness to ask for help.  Unfortunately, she is in a rather unique situation that her friends and family just can’t relate to.  She starts experiencing a disconnect between her reality and theirs.  On top of that, there is the fact that her condition is very upsetting for her loved ones, so she can’t discuss it with them without causing them pain and sadness.  They are either completely focused on the fact that she’s dying, or completely focused on denying it – neither of which is helpful to Holly.  She reluctantly goes to the grief support group in the hopes of connecting with people who understand what she’s going through but aren’t so personally attached to her that she has to protect them and that’s exactly what she finds, and more.  Once she lets go of the expectation that she SHOULD be able to get through it herself, she realizes the benefit of not having to and that’s one of the most important gifts I, as her creator, could give her!support

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